Tag Archives: Control

Balancing Incentives and Consequences

As parents, we can feel as though we are walking an impossible tightrope. Are we better off incentivizing or punishing? What is the appropriate balance between them? The truth is that we can all-too-quickly move towards the consequences end of the spectrum. For example: We begin by asking: ‘Please can you tidy your room’ Then we transition into accusing: ‘You

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Dealing with Tantrums

As parents, the question we face when dealing with tantrums is: Do I clamp down on them? Do I indulge them? Do I ignore them? Each of these strategies has its upsides and downsides. If I clamp down, I show my displeasure but my child will feel controlled and demeaned. If I indulge them, I may defuse the immediate issue,

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