Tag Archives: Motivations

Balancing Incentives and Consequences

As parents, we can feel as though we are walking an impossible tightrope. Are we better off incentivizing or punishing? What is the appropriate balance between them? The truth is that we can all-too-quickly move towards the consequences end of the spectrum. For example: We begin by asking: ‘Please can you tidy your room’ Then we transition into accusing: ‘You

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What Makes Your Partner Tick?

The starting point for any investigation into how your partner ticks must be the recognition that their needs and motivations may not be the same as yours. This is very straightforward to recognize in principle, but much harder in practice. 1. Dealing with differences. Let’s imagine that you’re someone who is action-oriented and wants people to get to the point. You appreciate

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